Your Man is My Man

This past Friday, SZA released her album entitled Ctrl. SZA has always been one of my favorite artists ever since I was introduced to her album my freshman year of college. I always found myself relating to many of her songs and her beautiful voice put the icing on the cake. However, when I listening to her most recent album, one song entitled The Weekend stuck out to me the most.

This song tells the story of a woman who is caught in somewhat of a “love triangle” – she becomes involved with a man who is in a relationship with another woman. In an interview on The Breakfast Club , SZA explained that she actually has been in this situation- she was dealing with a man who was in a relationship. On the other hand, she also explained how she is aware of her position of a “side chick”, yet does not care. She adds on how when in the chorus she sings “my man is your man”, she means that she’s not this mans girlfriend, nor is his “girlfriend” either truthfully- we all are dealing with the same men, as well as for different reasons.

Though this ideology may seem illogical to some, this concept of “side chick culture” is more prevalent than one may think. Some women do acknowledge the fact that they are dealing with a man who is in a relationship, yet they do not always see it as a problem. In her interview SZA also states how the term “side chick” (or “side piece” to keep things gender neutral) in general is a concept that is geared mainly towards the male population, leaving behind the connotation that women feel belittled, ashamed, and/or upset when placed in this type of “love triangle”. However, not all women resort to these emotions. But why would a woman who knows a man is in a relationship still pursue him?

Are all the good guys really taken?

Many people do feel that all the good guys are taken (for obvious reasons).  Some women go from meeting guy to guy, leaving them with little to no interest in them. Imagine meeting a guy who understands you, you connect with, and you also feel like you need for whatever reason it may be- but the downside is he’s in a relationship. Though I have never been in this particular situation, I know people who have been and stayed for reasons such as this. Or maybe it’s just the thrill of it all- they may feed off of the thrill of this triangle, and are not willing to let go of it.

Who did it better?

In the song, SZA also portrays herself as the better woman for the man she is talking about. One of the song lyrics is “You’re like 9 to 5, I’m the weekend”. Almost everybody considers the weekend to be the best part of the week- you get to relax and relieve all of the stress from the hectic work week. Comparing herself to the weekend implies that in fact she is the better woman for the man. I also interpreted this as she knows her place in this persons life, and does not want to change. After all, do you think Saturday would ever want to be Tuesday?

So who’s to blame in this situation- is the man more responsible for putting his girlfriend in this predicament,  or are both parties liable? SZA stated that nobody is the mans girlfriend, so do we truly just only need a significant other for one specific reason or more? Do we all really need a significant other in the first place?

“You take Wednesday, Thursday
Then just send him my way
Think I got it covered for the weekend”

-SZA – The Weekend (2017)


*disclaimer: I am in no way condoning infidelity, or saying that is indeed right.*

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